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[blinks]

i didn't say it was normal. we just wanted to stay together and not be in government housing and didn't have money for an apartment. we both have experience outdoors. so, we got a tent.

but i think you can sleep and live with someone without dating them, if that's the question you're actually asking? i would have done the same if another einherji showed up.

[Peter hung up that conversation with a laugh but it took about an hour or so before he started having A Thought and it was briefly unsettling. He's just a few laughs away from stuffing it to the recesses of his mind but he decided to (using Good or Bad advice from himself,) get an opinion first. Which hopefully won't get in the way of forgetting it.]

Ok but dream this hypothetical for a second: So you and Alex are only friends and you share a space and occasionally sleep in the same bed would you consider that potentially weird? If you totally didn't have to but did anyway.

[this is very Clearly not about him and Alex, which is good and a relief, but -- he doesn't know what it's about instead]

it's not the sleeping/space sharing that makes anything weird, it's the feelings you have?

can we use a different dream hypothetical than my boyfriend who i obviously have feelings for? like barney the dinosaur. if barney and i were sharing a space and occasionally sleeping in the same bed, if he were just my friend, it'd be different than if i were sharing those spaces while i had a crush on his purple, handsome face. the acts don't matter. it's what you bring to the acts.

if i were friends with barney and sleeping in the same bed with him and people thought that was weird, screw them.

if i were crushing on barney and sleeping in the same bed with him and people thought that was weird, uh, maybe? since i'm not being honest with barney? but still screw them. there's no reason to assume i'm dating barney.

Man you really couldn't have picked a slightly less creepy alternative scenario partner, could you.

But okay so like, to make this even worse
Say you and Barney are friends and you really click and spend a lot of time together, same wavelength. But you're not more than friends and that's not even really on the table - or well, you haven't thought about it before since other people kinda see you and Barns as part of a big network of adoptive family.

So from other people's views you're like, as "close as siblings" and it didn't occur to you that that's necessarily untrue but upon reflection it's like hmmm maybe sharing a bed and swimming in your underwear together isn't siblingish

and so now you're kinda like huh is this weird

as you ask your 17 year old friend for help deciphering this fucked up dinosaur situation

[Magnus reads and rereads this several times before responding. he's very happy with his choice of Barney]

ok some stuff though:
1. no, no i couldn't have picked a slightly less creepy alternative scenario partner.

2. perception of others doesn't matter, though i get what you're saying, that their perceptions kind of maybe threw you off track for a bit?

3. you can still develop feelings for someone in your "adoptive family." alex and i are in the same "adoptive family" of floor 19 at Valhalla. i actually confused what he meant when he confessed to me. i was like, "yeah your reaction to this thing is normal for somebody you feel like family with don't worry" blah blah, like an idiot. and then we straightened it out. uh, **figured it out, it was not straight.

4. let's take weird/normal out of this because it's stupid. would you want more than friends/more than siblings to be on the table, with barney?

5. i'm down for being asked about fucked up dinosaur situations. sharing is caring.

I get the whole 'you could' but if you aren't, and don't think they are developing feelings - so no feelings involved - it's nothing to get worked up about right?

I used the whole it's weird since you're pseudo family thing but I never thought it was weird personally, since I would sleep in the same bed as my sisters when they had nightmares and stuff. Y'know, fight the boogeyman and tell him to go fuck himself? So it felt a lot like that but then I realized my double standards when it came to assuming things about people who weren't my sisters and bff.

it's nothing to get worked up about if there's no feelings. that's what i think, anyway.

[he's frowning, though, unsure about the way Peter's approaching this]

but: you did ask your 17 year old friend about it. maybe you need to think about how you feel? and not just keep making assumptions about everybody in the equation. including yourself.

Noted, and will put that as an idea under advisement but honestly I just wanted to get your opinion on this. I'm pretty sure there's nothing else about it, but we'll see.

We keep this confidential too though, yeah? On the down low.